As a mother in medicine, are you engaging in mindfulness, or are you a multi-tasker? Perhaps that’s too simplistic of a question, as it’s not necessarily an either/or. The complexity may rest in which of these two are you striving for?
My challenge is I find I’m striving for both. I want to be more mindful and present with the people I’m with, but with things I want to multi-task. When I’m with my family, I should be with my family. When I’m with my students I should be with my students. When I’m with my patients I should be with my patients. When I'm in a meeting, I should be with the meeting members... that last one is a hard one! What if you find yourself with people and it’s not worth your while? When it’s not engaging. When you have sooooooo many competing priorities and demands. Do you exit (physically or mentally)? Do you meditate or do you multitask or do you make your way out the door?
And, what about when the people aren’t fully present with you? I’ll wait… And I’ll aim to make being there, being here, worthwhile.
Maybe the key is to be mindful and fully present with people, and to multi-task effectively with things. But that may also mean you have to be around the "right" people and do the "right" things... the people and things that give your life meaning!
I guess it’s kind of a topic or conundrum for us, the busiest people. And on that, do we agree that the busiest are the mothers in medicine?