I love your blog! It's been amazing reading everyone's stories and I hope I can get some insight or advice. I am currently a FM intern at my desirable location because I am near both my and my husband's family. We have a beautiful 5 month old daughter who is the light of my life. Since the match I've been regretting my chosen specialty. I came out of medical school loving a competitive specialty and was too discouraged to go through with it and under family pressure to come home for the baby's sake. I thought I had to do what's right for my family and return home where we can get some help and my daughter could be in a loving environment. My husband is a teacher and wasn't happy at our med school location. He was over the moon about coming home I couldn't disappoint him... But now I regret everyday I'm in this specialty.
Things I like about FM is the variety such as derm, pediatrics, and psych. Things I don't like about FM is I hate chronic health conditions. I don't like to be responsible for managing diabetes with kidney failure and liver cirrhosis plus 30 medications. My personality is much suited for a more specialized area. I don't know what to do. I want to switch into something else but I have no idea what. I would love to do dermatology but it is so highly competitive that I doubt I would get in. I also don't think my family will be willing to relocate for me to pursue options to get in such as a research fellowship. Other areas I'm interested in is pediatrics, EM, and psych. I know I know it sounds like I should do FM but I just can't take the "bread and butter" of it.
General pediatrics sounds better to me then general practice because kids don't generally have so many chronic health conditions for me to manage and I love working with kids. I didn't consider it in med school because of parents but now I am one and totally get it!! EM also sounds perfect on paper but the lifestyle scares me (nights,weekends, holidays) high burnout rate, and life/death pressure. Psych was a great rotation in med school but I know how emotionally draining patients can be. Also none of these residencies are available in my hometown and would require moving. Should I do what's best for my family? Try and stick it out? Or ultimately try and pursue something that will make me happy? I'm so conflicted because I know moving would be hard on all of us :((( and I'm scared to make things harder on my husband and me.
Any insight or advice is appreciated! Thank you!