A couple of weeks ago, my husband, N, and I found out that we both started our intern year in the MICU. We soon realized that this meant that we would almost never be able to pick our daughter up or drop her off at daycare. Considering it would be her first month ever in daycare, we were stressed! Nanny interviews commenced, and we tried to ignore the impending financial doom that our first month with a paycheck would bring (due to the high cost of nannies).
Soon thereafter, my mother-in-law suggested that we take our daughter, Itty, back home to spend the month with grandparents, aunts, and uncles. Just for reference, we moved 15 hours away from “home, home” a month ago, and we have no family nearby. Initially, I was resistant to the idea, as I couldn’t imagine a month without my Itty, but we eventually decided that it was probably the best idea for everyone. Itty would get to see her extended family, who previously provided all childcare for her, and N and I would have a month to focus on our new roles at physicians.
She’s been gone for 4 days now. While I was very sad during the first couple of days, I’m now realizing what a great idea it was. Grandparents are happy, Itty is happy (at least for now, she doesn’t miss us too much), and we do not have to worry about her at all during a stressful day at the hospital. I had forgotten what it was like to not have to think about picking her up, feeding her dinner, giving her a bath, getting her ready for bed, and putting her in bed. Not to mention the middle of the night awakenings that still seem to happen although she is almost two years old. Once you have a child, it is difficult to remember life without one.
Part of me almost feels badly that I’m enjoying this “me” time so much. I miss her tremendously but also feel that a significant burden has been lifted, at least temporarily. Has anyone ever done anything similar? This is probably the only time that we will ever send Itty away for a whole month, so does anyone have any childcare tips if we are ever in a similar situation again? We were so worried about having multiple new caregivers in such a short period of time, especially with the limited amount of time that she would be able to see us anyway. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked myself, “How are we going to do this? What did we get ourselves into? Why did we move so far from our families?”. However, I’m confident we’ll figure it out, little by little, with a lot of help from others (hint, hint!).
On another note, I was a physician today :) Crazy!