I am a third year medical student who recently had a child and am starting back on the wards soon, after a lengthy maternity leave. I experienced some of third year already (while doing rotations during my pregnancy), and I'm absolutely terrified about going back! Nope, it's not about the rigors of the wards or balancing school and medicine (we have older kids so I've done some of that already). I'm terrified of the resentment my husband is likely to feel while taking care of the kids for such long hours on his own while I'm away and also while I'm studying.
He fully admits that he felt some of that in my first and second year and knows he'll feel it again when I go back since the hours will be longer. To those in med school, residency, and practicing--what did you do to keep your relationship strong when your spouse often feels like a single parent? I plan to do as much household stuff as possible, find some extra childcare for a few hours on the weekends when I have tougher rotations, try not to complain, and try to book family time for at least a little almost every weekend. Any other ideas? What works for you in this regard? Thanks so much for any advice you have!