Her name is Catherine Newman.
I've only commented on her blog once or twice.
I found her when I was pregnant with Cecelia, and she was pregnant with her daughter Birdy. That was 12 years ago.
I followed her weekly "blog" on babycenter.com before blogs even existed.
I read her book, even though I didn't need to because I read all those posts.
I followed her when she left to start her own blog.
She now writes on Dalai Mama, among other things.
She is a fantastic cook. She posts recipes, and when I try them once or twice a year when I have time they are fantastic.
Her crack broccoli is a fave go to at my house for a veggie on a school night. Her fried eggs with sizzling vinegar is one of my most beloved dishes.
I occasionally read what she is reading. Buy the games she is playing with her family. Recommend them to my friends.
I am still catching up on blogs from when I did not have internet on vacation last week. Catherine has been writing articles for New York Times on Motherlode over the last year or so. I read one today that brought me to my knees. It's not the first of her articles to do this to me.
That's why I'm writing this post. To share this fantastic article. Give kids your undivided attention - Or no attention at all. I'm taking an evening weekly six week parenting class from a highly experienced social worker based on a book her husband co-wrote - Parenting the Strong-Willed Child. She trained in urban Atlanta and rural Mississippi and has two grown children. Catherine's article reminds me of what I am learning there to supplement my own awesome but lacking in some areas (aren't we all?) parenting. Strategies to gain control of your relationship to your kids and help them prosper and grow with capability and responsibility and love. I've got fountains of knowledge from this class from both the social worker and other parents despite only being halfway through it.
Thanks for everything Catherine. You don't know me but I love you!! Thanks especially for all the substitute mothering.