I am a 30 year old mother of 3 children ages 13, 10 and 8 in addition to being a wife and a second year OB/GYN resident.
It’s the weekend and I’m off, which is a miracle in and of itself. However, what should be time to relax is never exactly that. Sometimes because of children’s sports activities, or my husband’s work obligations or maybe because we have scheduled time to go “out” with our friends. Yet more often than not, despite the extended period of time off , I am incapable of relaxing. My in-laws jokingly ask my husband on a regular basis what is on my agenda for my time off. My husband literally can not comprehend why I can’t just sit.
Here’s the thing from my perspective:
I had my first child at 17, married at 18 and had my second and third children at 20 and 21 respectively. Throughout all of this I took off only 1 semester of school. I went straight through college and into med school and now OB residency. Through all of this I have learned to manage time, multitask and be efficient. Time is of the essence! For the past 13 years I have had an agenda. Clean the house, do laundry, academic reading, pay bills, etc. So, when given a moment that is not already scheduled for me, I feel the irresistible urge to use that time to it’s fullest potential. I have made it a point recently to get a massage once a month. However, I will admit that it takes me a full 30 minutes for my mind to clear of the tasks that need done. But hey, that’s a full 30 minutes that I really am relaxed! Now, as my children and I are getting older, and I am getting further into my career I can’t help but wonder how to break the cycle in my head and to really enjoy my time off.