Friday, May 11, 2012
A tired American - an angry rant
Ok, so this is risky, and I’m likely to attract plenty of debate but here I go.
First, why am I writing about this? Because I took an oath to be a healer. To me this means tolerance, justice, acceptance in order to achieve a greater good, in order to promote a healthy society. So, I am just a little irritated today as I look at my country which appears to be at odds with itself. My anger started while listening to NPR on the drive to work this morning and hearing about all of the discussion resulting from the TIME magazine cover of a model-like mom breastfeeding her three year old standing on a chair. Criticisms flying everywhere about extended breastfeeding and self-important moms. There is the typical sexualization of breastfeeding with lots of reference to the attractiveness of the mom on the cover, and the usual “if they can ask for it” type comments. (side note: newborns ask for it too - its called crying!!) So funny, that anyone who decides to formula feed their infant gets nearly stoned for not going the “breast is best” route. Then we flip it around and hate on the moms who keep breastfeeding. I realize I’m using the proverbial “we.” If this doesn’t apply to “you,” then feel free to ignore. But for all the rest of us: Lets STOP THIS! Mothers are always criticizing mothers - breastfeed or not breastfeed, work or stay at home, work a lot or a little, nanny or daycare or grandma, etc, etc. Even Fizzy’s post last week, illustrated how quickly we jump to judgement. As clinicians we do know the literature and the evidence, but the first step in being able to do no harm is gaining the TRUST and RESPECT of our patients, and in order to do this there needs to be more tolerance and listening.
Anyway, I’m just all revved up. I live in the Amendment 1 state. Justice, tolerance. I won’t say anymore than that. Our political system is full of polar opposites, butting heads and refusing to compromise. We’re arguing over reproductive rights of women... AGAIN! WHAT IS GOING ON!!!
Can’t we all just get along?